Affairs usually happen because for one partner “needs are not being met,” according to Marty Miller, a licensed marriage and family counselor in Shreveport. To deal with the affair, he suggests, it is necessary to understand why it happened.

The most difficult obstacle in overcoming an affair is to heal the breach of trust. Leesa Sitter, a licensed clinical social worker, explains that “healing after an affair does not occur overnight,” but “marriage can survive an affair.”

Recovering can take a lot of time and takes true commitment. Kimberly McClelland, also a licensed clinical social worker, explains that infidelity is an opportunity for both partners to focus on the marriage and make it “the priority.”

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Data detailing the ages of couples may explain recent drops in the divorce rate. According to recent Census data, the average age of newlyweds has been higher: in 1950, the average age of men entering their first marriage was 23 and was 20 for women. Those numbers were 28 and 26, respectively, in 2010. Recent census data also maintains that the “seven-year itch,” or average age of marriage that ends in divorce, still remains.

Stephen Willis, a marriage counselor, says this may have something to do with today’s divorce rate being lower than that of the past. “Research has shown that the more educated you are,” he explains, “the less likely you are to get divorced.” He added, “From 21 to 30, the chances of marriage being successful increase with each year. After 31, it tends to level out.”

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Text messages are the digital age’s lipstick on the collar.  Technology is transforming the face of divorce, especially in New York, one of the few states that still requires as showing of fault.

If you look to the media for examples, you will find Tiger Woods’ alleged affair partner publishing flirty text messages to the public.  Also, Senator John Ensign of Nevada, whose affair with a former employee was confirmed by an incriminating text message.

Others, like Kwame Kilpatrick, the Detroit’s former mayor, were caught because they used government-issued cell phones. Mr. Kilpatrick lied under oath about having an affair with an aide, but his text messages revealed othrwise.

Nevada’s governor, Jim Gibbons, was recently accused by his wife in their recent divorce of sending more than 800 text messages to his mistress in 2007.  He argued that the woman was just a friend, but he ended up paying the state of Nevada $130 for the messages from his phone. The list goes on ad infinitum.

Text messages are an ever-growing source of evidence used to substantiate New York divorces.  If you have recently caught your spouse sending suspicious text messages or have recently been caught sending such messages you can set up a free divorce consultation with our divorce office.  Call toll-free (866) 830-2064 now…