5 Steps to Getting Over Divorce

Is it possible to get over a bad divorce?

Yes. But it’s going to take work, including getting back in control and owning your life. Believe it or not, there is a psychological term for this. It’s called Radical Acceptance.

It takes five important steps:

Mourn: Experience everything you are feeling. You sacrificed a lot for your marriage and it did not work out; feeling hurt, anger, pity, remorse, guilt, and shame is normal. You may still be angry with your narcissistic ex or your adulterous wife, and that is a part of the healing process. If the grief has extended into depression, get some help.

Admit: Admit that you cannot control everything. Certain things in life are a product of the time and place that we were born into. The universe dealt you a hand, and focusing on how you could have played it better in the past or what may have happened with a different set of cards is rarely productive. Admit that your divorce cost you something — be it emotionally, financially, or both. Bad things do happen to good people. If you become stuck in a sense of injustice, you will miss much of what life has to offer and the world will miss what you have to offer in return. Some people form entire identities around a sense of being wronged, and many of them will go on to hurt others in the way you were hurt. It is enough to be victimized; don’t letthe victim role victimize you as well.

Trust: Trust that things will get better, and you will not feel this way forever. Healing is something your body wants. When you injure yourself, your body naturally reacts and begins to repair itself. Your soul is striving for equilibrium. Trust that you are prepared for the future and help yourself move on.

Read More: The Huffington Post