Dating: Better to wait for divorce papers?

I met a lot of men who respond to my “Are you truly single?” question with “I’m headed for divorce” or basically divorced, or my all time favorite “sleeping in separate rooms” – all responses that still qualify as married. Married as in NOT single.

I can understand why someone would be anxious to move on and find a new love, but is it better to wait for the official divorce papers before you actively pursue something serious?

I have a friend who did not wait to get serious with her “pending divorce” boyfriend. She moved in with him, redecorated his house, and pretty much replaced wife #1. It wasn’t long before she was being handed a summons to appear in court. She was tagged as the homewrecker who prevented any reconciliation.

I am sure if she had to do it all over again, she would have kept things friendly until her romantic interest was officially divorce. Do you have a problem seeing someone who is recently separated?