Divorced, But Dating Your Ex

A friend of mine had gotten divorced about a year ago. We spoke often during the divorce process and I tried to give her a lot of support. We hadn’t been in contact for about six months after her divorce and recently met for coffee. It was great to see her again, but I noticed how stressed she seemed. I asked if everything was okay and she told me that she had started dating her ex. While I was shocked, I knew not to judge her and just listened.

She said that she got back together with him after going on some bad dates and feeling lonely. They began texting, then talking and eventually sort of “hooked up” (whatever that means.) They went through a tough two-year divorce process that involved high attorney fees and selling their house in a bad market. However, they never had children together. She admitted that she was stressed out because she was beginning to think that she made the wrong decision in getting back together with him. In fact, she hadn’t given me any reasons that seemed strong enough for them to get back together at all.

Sometimes it’s reasonable and appropriate to get back with your ex. It doesn’t happen often, but in some cases it can end up being positive. However, you have to make sure that you’re getting back together for the right reasons. Here are seven reasons you should not get back with your ex:

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