Divorce Stress: 3 Ways To Deal

1. Stop the blame game
Yes, bad things happen to good people! We all know this. But if you suddenly find yourself picking up the remnants of a broken relationship, the last thing you need to do is start the blame game. No woulda, shoulda’s or coulda’s can change the situation. We are subject to our own flawed human traits and, yes, a relationship that fails is caused by a lot of different reasons. Learn and move on.

If you are a newly single mom like I was, there is a greater reason for avoiding the blame game. The children are watching how you handle the situation, and you need to show them that you can stay positive and move through the transition without remaining angry and stressed. The more I projected a healthy perspective and developed a comfortable daily routine for my family, the better my kids reacted.

2. Get creative
Why not use this transition to create a newly minted chapter in your life? I took the time to stop and reassess my strengths that I could use to create a satisfying and productive new chapter. There is no one magic formula for raising your kids, so by emphasizing our strengths, we can create a strategy that will be successful for everyone, including the kids. It is important to be creative and resourceful.

I decided to incorporate strategies that allowed my children to participate in creating a comfortable home life. For example, what family chores could they take on that would allow them to contribute to the new lifestyle? We reconfigured the household management chores formerly shared by two adults so that I was not overwhelmed as the single adult, and the children could gain a sense of contributing.

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