Breaking Up is Hard to Do

The Daily Beast spoke to two experts on family psychology about the emotional and, interestingly, biological struggles associated with divorce. New Yorkers Dr. Amir Levine, M.D, and Rachel Heller are the authors of “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help you Find—and Keep—Love.”

According to the authors, the pain and stress coming from a break up is not just emotional, but “is registered by the brain as real pain—similar areas of the brain light up after the collapse of a relationship as when we break a leg.” This is because, “when we become attached to our romantic partner, we become, in many ways, a single physiological and biological unit.”

This may explain why couples have a tendency to get back together: our loved ones provide us with a sense of security. Knowing and understanding the reasons behind this tendency can provide you with a healthy new perspective.

New Yorkers can certainly feel stressed going from a secure, steady and comfortable relationship to being thrown into single life and the dating game. As discussed in The Village Voice, many are looking to move forward in their career or just have fun.

“People who live in New York are successful in their field or want to be. We’re not someplace where so much of our time is devoted to relationships,” said Tamsen Fadal, a relationship expert.

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