We often talk about dealing with divorce for parents and its immediate impact on their kids. But what about the long term effects for grown children. Sometimes it can morph into repeatedly annoying situations down the line. Especially when it comes to family gatherings or necessary outings.
For example think of a wedding. Where do you put your parents to sit? How do they tolerate each other at the table? What about other family gatherings? These are all things to consider for an older child with divorced parents. Mitigating these issues can be quite stressful.
Shannon Sweeney has delt with this herself. In a recent New York Times article she highlighted what she has gone through. Read More : New York Times – http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/28/fashion/weddings/divorce-whisperer-mediating-with-parents-isnt-easy-field-notes.html
Still for most the issues arise mostly over money matters. Think of a divorced child’s future wedding. Who pays? Here you could be faced with a situation where one parent wants to show their love by one-upping the other. Or perhaps one parent doesn’t want to pay more than the other.
Regardless in many cases old wounds fester and develop into real issues for many divorced couples, and it’s the adult children who have to deal with the repercussions. Dealing with two bickering adults shouldn’t be wished on anyone.